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A FRAMEWORK FOR
UNDERSTANDING
GENERATIONAL POVERTY

Based on the book

POVERTY: A FRAMEWORK FOR
UNDERSTANDING AND WORKING WITH
STUDENTS AND ADULTS FROM POVERTY


by Ruby K. Payne, Ph.D.




“NO SIGNIFICANT
LEARNING OCCURS
WITHOUT A SIGNIFICANT
RELATIONSHIP.”


Dr. James Comer

KEY POINTS


POVERTY IS RELATIVE



POVERTY OCCURS IN ALL RACES
AND ALL COUNTRIES



ECONOMIC CLASS IS A CONTINUOUS
LINE, NOT A CLEAR CUT
DISTINCTION

KEY POINTS
(CONTINUED)



GENERATIONAL AND SITUATIONAL
POVERTY ARE DIFFERENT



THERE ARE PATTERNS BUT ALL
PATTERNS HAVE EXCEPTIONS



EVERYONE BRINGS THE HIDDEN
RULES FROM THE CLASS WITHIN
WHICH THEY WERE RAISED



KEY POINTS
(CONTINUED)



SCHOOLS AND BUSINESSES
OPERATE FROM MIDDLE CLASS
NORMS



WE CANNOT EXCUSE OR CONDEMN
THOSE WITH WHOM WE WORK FOR
NOT KNOWING THE HIDDEN RULES

KEY POINTS
(CONTINUED)


THE HIDDEN RULES MUST BE TAUGHT IN
ORDER FOR INDIVIDUALS TO BE ABLE TO
MAKE INFORMED CHOICES



IN ORDER TO MOVE FROM THE POVERTY
CLASS TO MIDDLE CLASS, OR MIDDLE
CLASS TO WEALTH, ONE MUST GIVE UP
RELATIONSHIPS FOR ACHIEVEMENT

WHAT ARE HIDDEN RULES?


HIDDEN RULES EXIST IN POVERTY, IN
MIDDLE CLASS, AND IN WEALTH, AS WELL
AS IN ETHNIC GROUPS AND OTHER UNITS
OF PEOPLE.




HIDDEN RULES ARE THE SALIENT,
UNSPOKEN UNDERSTANDINGS THAT CUE
THE MEMBERS OF A GROUP

THAT AN
INDIVIDUAL DOES OR DOES NOT FIT

GENERALLY, IN ORDER TO SUCCESSFULLY

MOVE FROM ONE CLASS TO THE NEXT, IT

IS IMPORTANT TO HAVE A SPOUSE OR

MENTOR FROM THE CLASS TO WHICH ONE

WISHES TO MOVE TO MODEL AND TEACH

THE HIDDEN RULES.

Could You Survive in Poverty?

1
. I know which churches and sections of town
have the best rummage sales.

2.
I know which rummage sales have “bag
sales” and when.

3.
I know which grocery stores’ garbage bins
can be accessed for “thrown
-
away” food.

4.
I know how to get someone out of jail.

5.
I know how to physically fight and defend
myself physically.

6.
I know how to get a gun, even if I have a
police record.

9.
I know how to live without a checking
account.

10.
I know how to live without electricity and a
phone.

11.
I know how to use a knife as scissors.

12.

I can entertain a group of friends with my
personality and stories.

13.
I know what to do when I don’t have money
to pay the bills.

14.
I know how to move in half a day.

15.
I know how to get and use food stamps or
an electronic card for benefits.

16.
I know where the free medical clinics are.

17.
I am very good at trading and bartering.

18.
I can get by without a car.

Could You Survive in

Middle Class?

1.
I know how to get my children in Little
League, piano lessons, soccer, etc.

2.
I know how to properly set a table.

3.
I know which stores are most likely to carry
the clothing brands my family wears.

4.
My children know the best name brands in
clothing.

5.
I know how to order in a nice restaurant.


6. I know how to use a credit card, checking
account and savings account


and I
understand an annuity. I understand term
life insurance, disability insurance and
20/80 medical insurance, as well as house
insurance, flood insurance, and
replacement insurance.

7.
I talk to my children about going to college.

8.
I know how to get one of the best interest
rates on my new
-
car loan
.

9.
I understand the difference among the
principal, interest, and escrow statements
on my house payment.


9.
I know how to help my children with their
homework and do not hesitate to call the
school if I need additional information.

10.
I know how to decorate the house for the
different holidays.

11.
I know how to get a library card.

12.
I know how to use the different tools in the
garage.

13.
I repair items in my house almost
immediately when they break


or know a
repair service and call it.

Could You Survive in Wealth?

1.
I can read a menu in French, English, and
another language.

2.
I have several favorite restaurants in
different countries of the world.

3.
During the holidays, I know how to hire a
decorator to identify the appropriate themes
and items with which to decorate the house.

4.
I know who my preferred financial advisor,
legal service, designer, domestic
employment service, and hairdresser are.

5.
I have at least two residences that are
staffed and maintained.

6.
I know how to ensure confidentiality
and loyalty from my domestic staff.

7.
I have at least two or three “screens”
that keep people whom I do not wish
to see away from me.

8.
I fly my own plane, the company plane
or the Concord.

9.
I know how to enroll my children in the
preferred private schools.

10.
I know how to host the parties that
“key” people attend.

11.
I am on the board of at least two charities.

12.
I know the hidden rules of the Junior
League.

13. I support or buy the work of a particular
artist.

14. I know how to read a corporate financial
statement and analyze my own financial
statements.

WE CONFORM TO THE HIDDEN
RULES WE GREW UP WITH




WORK


MIDDLE CLASS ACHIEVEMENT


MATERIAL SECURITY




POLITICAL CONNECTIONS


WEALTH SOCIAL CONNECTIONS


FINANCIAL CONNECTIONS




RELATIONSHIPS


POVERTY ENTERTAINMENT


SURVIVAL


Hidden Rules Among Classes




Poverty

Middle
Class

Wealth

Possessions

People

Things

One of a
kind objects,
legacies,
pedigrees

Money

To be used,
spent

To be
managed

To be
conserved,
invested

HIDDEN RULES AMONG CLASSES

Poverty

Middle
Class

Wealth

Personality

Is for
entertainment.

A sense of
humor is highly
valued.

Is for
acquisition
and stability.
Achievement
is highly
valued.

Is for
connections,
financial,
political,
social
connections
are highly
valued.

Social
Emphasis

Social inclusion
of the people
they like.

Emphasis is
on self
-
governance
and self
-
sufficiency.

Emphasis is
on social
exclusion.

HIDDEN RULES AMONG CLASSES

Poverty

Middle
Class

Wealth

Food

Key Question:
Did you have
enough?
Quantity
important.

Key Question:
Did you like it?
Quality
important.

Key Question:
Was it well
presented?
Presentation
important.

Clothing

Clothing valued
for the individual
style and
expression of
personality.

Clothing valued
for its quality and
acceptance into
the norm of
middle class.
Label important.

Clothing valued
for its artistic
sense and
expression.
Designer
important.

HIDDEN RULES AMONG CLASSES

Poverty

Middle
Class

Wealth

Time

Present most
important.
Decisions made
for the moment
based on
feelings or
survival.

Future most
important.
Decisions made
against future
ramifications.

Traditions and
past history most
important.
Decisions
partially made on
basis of
tradition/decorum


Education

Valued and
revered as an
abstract but not
as a reality.

Crucial for
climbing success
ladder and
making money.

Necessary
tradition for
making and
maintaining
connections.

HIDDEN RULES AMONG CLASSES

Poverty

Middle
Class

Wealth

Destiny

Believe in fate.
Cannot do much
to mitigate
chance.

Believe in
choice. Can
change the
future with good
choices now.

Noblesse oblige.

Language

Casual register.
Language is
about survival.

Formal register.
Language is
about
negotiation.

Formal register.
Language is
about
connections.

HIDDEN RULES AGAINST CLASSES

Poverty

Middle
Class

Wealth

Family Structure

Tends to be
matriarchal.

Tends to be
patriarchal.

Depends on who
has the money.

World View

Sees the world in
terms of local
setting.

Sees the world in
terms of national
setting.

Sees the world in
terms of
international
view.

HIDDEN RULES AMONG CLASSES

Poverty

Middle
Class

Wealth

Love

Love and
acceptance
unconditional,
based upon
whether or not
an individual is
liked.

Love and
acceptance
conditional and
based largely on
achievement.

Love and
acceptance
conditional and
related to social
standing and
connections.

Driving Force

Survival,
relationships and
entertainment.

Work and
achievement.

Financial,
political, and
social
connections.

HIDDEN RULES IN POVERTY



1
.


IMPORTANT INFORMATION IS PASSED


NONVERBALLY


2.


COOPERATION IS OFFERED BECAUSE


OF LOYALITY


“I’LL DO IT FOR YOU BECAUSE I LIKE


YOU.”










DISCIPLINE




PENANCE AND

FORGIVENESS




CHOICE AND


CONSEQUENCES

RESOURCES

Key Questions:

Why do some people make it out of poverty and others do not.

Why did our intervention not work?


1.
RELATIONSHIPS/ROLE MODELS

2.
FINANCIAL

3.
EMOTIONAL

4.
MENTAL

5.
SPIRITUAL

6.
PHYSICAL

7.
SUPPORT SYSTEMS

8.
KNOWLEDGE OF HIDDEN RULES


THE EMOTIONAL BANK ACCOUNT

DEPOSITS WITHDRAWALS_____

SEEK FIRST TO SEEK FIRST TO BE

UNDERSTAND UNDERSTOOD


KEEPING PROMISES BREAKING PROMISES


KINDNESS, COURTESY UNKINDNESS, RUDENESS


CLARIFYING EXPECTATIONS VIOLATING EXPECTATIONS


LOYALITY TO THE ABSENT DISLOYALITY, DUPLICITY


APOLOGIES PRIDE, ARROGANCE


OPEN TO FEEDBACK REJECTING FEEDBACK



EMOTIONAL BANK ACCOUNT IN POVERTY

DEPOSITS WITHDRAWALS


APPRECIATION FOR THE PUT
-
DOWNS OR SARCASM

PERSON’S HUMOR ABOUT THE PERSON’S


HUMOR


ACCEPTANCE OF WHAT AN INSISTENCE AND DEMAND


INDIVIDUAL CANNOT SAY FOR A FULL EXPLANATION

ABOUT A PERSON OR SITU
-

ABOUT A PERSON OR SITU
-

ATION ATION


RESPECT FOR THE DEMANDS INSISTENCE ON THE

AND PRIORITIES OF RELA
-

MIDDLE
-
CLASS VIEW OF

TIONSHIPS RELATIONSHIPS


USING THE ADULT VOICE USING THE PARENT VOICE





DEPOSITS WITHDRAWALS


ASSISTING WITH GOAL TELLING THE INDIVIDUAL

SETTING HIS/HER GOALS


IDENTIFYING OPTIONS MAKING JUDGEMENTS ON

RELATED TO RELATED TO THE VALUE AND AVAILA
-

AVAILABLE RESOURCES BILITY OF RESOURCES


UNDERSTANDING THE ASSIGNING PEJORATIVE

IMPORTANCE OF CHARACTER TRAITS TO

PERSONAL FREEDOM THE INDIVIDUAL



(CONTINUED)

WHAT DOES THIS

INFORMATION MEAN?


ASSUMPTIONS MADE ABOUT AN INDIVIDUAL’S
INTELLIGENCE OR ATTITUDE MAY RELATE
MORE TO THEIR UNDERSTANDING OF HIDDEN
RULES


AN UNDERSTANDING OF THE VALUES AND
CULTURE OF POVERTY WILL LESSEN ANGER
AND FRUSTRATION FOR SERVICE PROVIDERS


STUDENTS AND CLIENTS NEED TO KNOW THE
HIDDEN RULES SO THEY CAN MAKE
KNOWLEDGEABLE CHOICES